Timeline

This has been a major part of mine and my family's life for the past 18 months. This is something that no one deserves to go through especially when they are not at fault.  I'm sharing this for a few reasons. The first is because there are always warning signs, if you see any similarities, run. The second, is because although I do not need to defend myself or justify my decisions in any way I do feel that the truth is important, so here it is.  There have been numerous domestic violence incidences in the past with Jose.  They usually happened when Jose was drunk or high, or in need of a drug fix.  Late summer of 2005 Jose sat on top of Amy and choked me while their son Presley (approximately 6 months old) watched from the bed.  Presley was reached on of the bed to get to Amy as she tried to get Jose off of her.  Amy was worried about Presley falling off the bed, which he did, landing on top of her face, this was the reason Jose stopped choking Amy.  Before this there were several other incidences.  Amy has been backhanded on several occasions leaving her mouth busted open.  José’s mother and friends have been witness to this.  On one occasion Jose backhanded her and several of his friends had to stop Jose. Jose ended up with a broken hand after this fight with his friends.  Amy was pregnant with our son Presley when this happened.   The following documentation from November to May 2011 is included in the Protective Order issued May 2011 By Judge Gray.   • November 2006- Sexual incident involving Jose and Amy’s 15-year-old minor.  Jose took and failed a lie detector test.  Jose and Amy separated at this time, there was a CPS investigation and Jose was removed from the home.  Jose and their children were required to take counseling classes and Jose begins AA.  This lasted 6 months, Jose began drinking again and it progressed to heavy drinking and drug use, he failed an at home trust test in May 2010 tested positive for cocaine, he has a long history of drug use (20+ years). • January 20th 2011- Jose and Amy were separated, he broke into the house (they mutually agreed to him moving out) three times.  Amy woke up to him standing over her in bed yelling at her, the last time he broke her phone and laptop.  During this time he would frequently drive by the house repeatedly late at night. After the third time Amy made a police report. (NBPD case # 1100003316)     • March 19th 2011- Jose tried to run Amy and their children off the road.  He then followed Amy to her friends’ house and began yelling and cussing in front of the children.  (Police report made with Guadalupe Sheriffs office)   • April 30th 2011- Amy was at Kork Wine Bar in New Braunfels with friends.  Jose showed up there and began screaming at her.  He then stole her vehicle and drove it back to 1313 West San Antonio Street.  Amy called the police who told her it was mutual property and she could go and retrieve it, which she did.  When Amy got there she got in the vehicle as quickly at possible, Jose tried to stop her by grabbing her arm and leaving a bruise and then by getting in front of the vehicle as she tried to leave.  (NBPD case # 1100020169)   • May 1st 2011- Amy was at a First Communion at St. Peter and Paul Catholic church.  Jose stole her vehicle again, leaving her and their children stranded in the middle of New Braunfels.  NBPD officer took her to 1313 W. San Antonio Street and got the vehicle.     • May 1st and 2nd 2011- May 1st Jose called approximately 106 times.  May 2nd Amy woke up to 58 missed calls from Jose; he called approximately 19 times after that.  The majority of calls Amy did not answer, when she would answer the calls where degrading sexual comments.  Amy made a police report for harassment.  (NBPD case # 1100020295)   EX PARTE PROTECTIVE ORDER ISSUED BY JUDGE GRAY MAY 3RD 2011     TAX REFUND/FINANCIAL SUPPORT/PROPERTY- January 2011 24th-says he’s going to give Amy half of tax return. 25th- Jose tells Amy to Pawn her ring to get money.           Jose says he sent money and it will be there on the 3rd. February 2nd- Jose says he will give Amy half of income tax return. March 2011 8th- Amy is still asking about tax refund, and finds proof that Jose had the money a month ago. June 2011- 25th-Jose puts Amy’s belongings outside and says its going to rain. July 2011 5th-Jose tells Amy she cannot get her belongings. March 2012 29th- Jose tells Amy that he will bring some of her belongings.  Amy responds to Jose telling him that she has attempted to get her belongings several times and he has refused her access.  She explains that she is not comfortable exchanges possessions with him in Columbus, nor is her car big enough to fit belongings into and that what he has brought her in the past has been broken of missing parts. June 2012 11th- Jose tells Amy that because she is getting remarried she will not be getting as much money from him (child support)   WELL BEING OFCHILDREN February 9th- Amy tells Jose to call the kids on time not 30 minutes after when they are in bed. 23rd- Amy offers to send clothing for the kids, Jose says yes but not too much. March 2011 23rd- Pixie taken to ER after having multiple potty accidents.  She began complaining of pain, has a severe UTI and a high white blood cell count. Accidents begin each time Pixie comes back from José’s house. April 2011- 2nd- Jose wants Amy to watch Parker so he can go to therapy. August 2011 19th- Amy gives Jose school information via text 21st- Jose did not return life vest that he borrowed from Amy. 24th- Multiple texts and phone calls about Doctors, Amy sends Jose Medicaid information. 26th- Amy gives Jose Pixies school information.  Jose says that he will send half of tuition. September 2011 8th- Jose says he cant afford tuition. December 2012 5th- Penelope has multiple tantrums on this day.  Amy asks Jose if anything happened over the weekend.  He says no.  Amy later finds out that this was the weekend Jose beat Penelope with the shoe the first time. January 2012 January 16th- After picking up the children in Columbus Amy had to pull over because Penelope became hysterical describing Jose beating her with a shoe while Presley watched.  While waiting in Columbus for Amy to meet him, Jose beat Penelope with a shoe for the second time.  A police report was made and CPS was called. May 2012 4th- Penelope calls Amy hysterical saying that Jose had locked her in the bathroom after she became upset.  Penelope’s older sister snuck in and gave her the phone so that she could call Amy; she was in the bathroom for approximately an hour. -Jose repeatedly asks for clothes for the children, refusing to buy them anything for when they are at his house. 16th- Phone conversation- Presley tells Jose he has summer school in June.  Both the girls tell Jose they do not want to talk to Jose.  (recording) 17th- Penelope calls and asks Jose to pick her up in Houston on the way to the beach.  Jose asks if someone told her to ask him that and why did she not want to talk to him yesterday.  Penelope says no and that she doesn’t want to talk to him anymore.  Presley tells Jose that he wants to go to his soccer game on Saturday. Jose tells Presley to tell Penelope “to get on the phone right now” Pixie tells Jose she does not want to go to the beach. (recording) 18th- At the drop off Jose did not have car seats for the kids and had to wait at the police station until he found someone to borrow one from.  Over the phone Amy tells the police officer that she will come and get the kids and take them home but will not give Jose her car seats because she has in the past and had to replace them when not returned or returned broken. 31st- Penelope is crying that she does not want to go to her Dads because he is mean to her.  Penelope says that “he is mean to me and yells at me a bunch, I don’t want to go, I want to stay here with you…I want you to come with me (talking to Amy) whenever he yells at me he makes me cry, I get really scared when he yells at me.  Parker gets the phone and calls Kim (when Penelope is scared) but Daddy takes the phone away…I really miss Parker but I don’t want to go with Dad ” “He wont let me talk to her” (talking about Jose not letting Penelope talk to Amy) “he says no” when Penelope asks to talk to Amy (recording) June 2012 14th- Amy replaces Pixies shoes because Jose has not sent back the pair that Pixie wore to his house two months ago. 14th- Amy asks Jose to obtain insurance for the kids.  Their Medicaid will not be renewable because of combined incomes.  Pixie needs insurance that covers speech therapy.   15th- Amy asks Jose to replace Presley’s shoes that were ruined at his house. 17th- Jose admits to putting the kids in the trunk of his vehicle with no car seats and no seatbelts.  The kids were not fed dinner and Pixie was wearing a dress that continually fell off of her exposing her chest area. July 2012 4th- Jose asks to speak to the children, Amy gives him her husbands phone number, Jose refuses to call on Clint’s phone.     VISITATION January 2011 28th- Refuses visitation with kids. February 9th- Amy asks Jose to call earlier, not after kids are asleep. 22nd-Amy agrees to switch weekend for Dog booth.  Explains that Jose will not see the kids for 3 weeks, offers him to make up the weekend.  Amy offers to accommodate Jose and come to New Braunfels, offers him the kids during Spring Break, Jose refuses visitation says he has to work.  Then says he wants Pixie to live with him. 23rd- Jose says he will ick up the kids in Columbus but wants Amy to be his friend and hug him on drop offs and pick ups. July 2011 15th- Jose late to pick up.  After pick up Jose asks Amy how she manages the kids.  Says he’s ready to kill them after 10 minutes, cant fathom another 10 days with them. 25th- Jose refuses visitation. 29th- Jose refuses visitation again.   31st-Jose says he will come to Houston to get the kids and bring Amy her things. And keep them the week instead of the weekend.  Amy has to register kids for school and they have Doctor appointments.   August 2011 2nd- Amy asks why the week and not weekend.  Jose gets mad and says he’s not bringing her stuff of getting the kids. Jose says he wont pick up the kids until they go back to court. 3rd- Jose refuses visitation 12th- Jose admits to not getting kids last few weeks. Says he can not pick up the kids (make up weekend) 13th- Amy met Jose at Wal-Mart in Houston for visitation. 14th- Amy gives Jose unscheduled visit until the 21st September 2011 30th- Jose 25 minutes late October 2011 2nd- Jose was 30 minutes late DECEMBER 2012 1st- Amy asked Jose to buy a phone card for the go phone she has so that he can regularly talk to the kids.  He refuses and says, “They will just have to miss out on talking to their father”. 16th- Amy offers Jose visitation with the kids December 16th-18th from her scheduled Christmas visitation, he refuses. 25TH- Jose agrees to pick up the kids in Houston because Amy’s car is not in good condition 26th- At 2:30 am and 7:30am Jose changes his mind and sends an email saying that Amy will have to meet him in Columbus. January 2012 13th- Jose and Amy switched weekends at José’s request so that Jose could take Presley to monster Jam.  Agreed to meet Sunday in Columbus at 6pm, Jose refused and kept the children until Monday, after Amy explained that this was her time and could not meet him until 8pm on Monday. 24th- Amy tells Jose 7:30 would be a good time to call. 28th- Jose refuses visitation. February 2012 Amy did not send the children to Jose for visitation during this month because of the open CPS case for Penelope.  CPS caseworker verbally advised her not to send them over until there was a safety plan in place but did warn her that she may face contempt of court charges. April 2012 6th- Jose does not exercise his visitation with the kids.   22nd- Jose is over 30 minutes later returning the kids. May 2012 20th- Jose agrees to meet Amy in Houston at 7pm instead of the regularly scheduled 6pm because he is coming back from Galveston.  Amy waits at CVS on Gessner (their agreed meeting location) until 8pm when Jose arrives with the kids.  For an hour he sent her text messages saying he was almost there the kids were eating. June 2012 2nd- Amy asks the kids if they are having a good day Jose comments “Are you being abused?  Are you being bit by a pit bull or something?” Penelope says, “I cried for you three times.” Jose is yelling “We got to get to the tube shoot before the sun goes down” Penelope yells back “I don’t want to go to the tube shoot!”  Jose continues to yell; Presley says, “Be quiet!” 3rd- Nelly says “I don’t want to be here, I want to come home…I wish I could come home today”(Jose hangs up the phone after she says that) Amy can hardly hear the kids because there is so much screaming in the background. Presley says, “Dad wont let me” go outside to talk.  (recording) 4th-Penelope says she is wearing her new underwear that we bought her.  Amy got hung up on. Presley left a voicemail upset saying that he got in trouble and he was ready to come home.  Presley tells Amy that he got in trouble and was yelled at because Richie said that he called him a baby when he fell on the trampoline.  Jose hears Presley telling Amy and says, “Why are you talking about that?  Whatever’s happening here is none of her (Amy’s) business.  Presley’s says, “He’s mad at me.  He says I can’t talk about stuff that’s happening” Presley’s asks Jose “Can you just leave me alone for just a second?”  Jose says, “You gotta go” Presley says, “I just want to hang out with you, I want to come home and hang out with you and Ryder” (recording) 5th- Presley says “I’m ready to come home…I got hurt yesterday and I got in trouble, I don’t know why” Presley tells Amy about getting in trouble on the trampoline again.  Pixie says, “I want you” Amy can’t hear anything again because of background noise and speakerphone.  (recording) 6th- Jose does not answer 7th- Kids talk briefly Jose tells them they have to get off the phone someone yells “I don’t want to!” 10th- Jose does not let Amy talk to the kids. 13th- Amy was running late to pick up the kids due to traffic and wrecks.  Jose said he would only wait 30 minutes and then leave with the kids.  At 6:30 Amy receives an email that Jose is stranded with the children at the Eastbound Rest Center headed back towards New Braunfels.  Amy has to request an officer to follow her there.  The rest center is approximately 10 miles away putting Jose leaving their planned meeting location of the Columbus police station at approximately 6:20.  Presley later told Amy “Daddy said we were going back to New Braunfels”. 15th- Jose was 25 minutes late, Amy waited. 24th- Jose asks to speak to the kids; this is the first time since he dropped them off on June 17th.  Amy says she will have the kids FaceTime Jose, he then asks if he can just talk to them tomorrow (Monday) or Wednesday instead. June 24th- Jose says he is coming back from Houston where he has picked up Parker, who has been in Houston for a week.  She has been staying at Kim’s house 4 blocks from her brother and sisters and Amy and the children were never told.   July 2012 10th- Jose refuses to let Amy speak to the children because she is calling from her husbands phone. 11th- After Presley tells Amy that Jose called her “duck face” Jose refuses to let Amy speak to the kids until she put in writing that she will have a positive conversation with them and not have them say anything negative is happening at his house.       HARASSMENT March 2011 1st- Several messages from Jose stating that everything is his fault, admits to being a bad human, does not answer drug question from Amy. Jose says that Amy is going to have to take Parker after multiple times of telling Amy see will never see Parker again. (Parker is José’s daughter) 5th- Jose admits to illegally obtaining Amy’s ATT phone records from Akili who works for ATT. 8th- Jose says he is going to let the kids know Amy is trying to put him in jail. 9th- Jose threatens to beat Clint’s ass if he is ever near his family. 11th- Jose apologizing for stalking Amy on Facebook. 11th- Calls Amy a dumb Ass. 23rd- Jose tells Amy she has a stick up her ass. 23rd- Jose tells Amy “Clint is a bad fuck.” 25th- Jose tells Amy “You were always good for opening your legs quick”, apologizes, then says “I can’t leave you alone” “pray for me, leave me alone” 27th- Amy says Stop contacting me” after several phone calls, Jose says he’s not calling for her and then asks if they can talk. 28th- Jose admits to calling Amy names and apologizes for what he has put her through. April 2011 1st- Says he wants to talk to the kids and wont harass or bother Amy anymore, says he wants to act civil.  Calls Amy a worthless piece of shit, asks Amy if she “is fucking Clint, Bobby, or Roger and getting herpes” 49 TEXT IN A ROW FROM JOSE.   June 2011 4th- Amy tells Jose that the kids are still upset about him trying to run them off the road.  Jose says, “You will never have to worry about him ever doing that again.” 25th- Jose says he “fucked Cassie on your 21st birthday” to Amy. July 2011 5th- calls Amy a “whore”.  Makes derogatory comment about Amy’s weight.   20th- Tells Amy not to kiss anyone around the kids. Amy again says “Stop commenting on my personal life” Jose calls Amy a “whore”, says, “If it walks like a duck”. Amy says, “Leave me alone”. Jose says he got a girlfriend, makes fun of Amy for being home alone and tells her to find a man and get a life. 22nd- Jose apologizes for saying mean things, cheating and putting his hands on Amy. 25th- Jose makes duck reference (whore) Calls Amy his “leftovers” in three different texts. 26th- Jose says Amy has “a massive yeast infection that smells” and “a massive cyst”- this is in reference to polycystic ovarian syndrome that Amy has. October 2011 2nd- Jose tells Amy “I hope you get AIDS” Jose admits to cheating on Amy with Carrie while she was pregnant with Presley.   13th- Amy says stop harassing me. February 2012 7th-Jose emails Amy Lenny Kravitz video “My Precious Love” March 2012- 2nd-Jose calls Amy’s work approximately 20 times and her cell phone approximately 20 times after she has emailed him to tell him that she would meet in Columbus.  During this Amy told him verbally on the phone that she would meet him and to “please stop calling there is nothing else to talk about” Jose said that he “wouldn’t stop” and proceeding to call 15 times after this and tell the receptionist that Amy was “holding the kids from him and that she was in contempt of court”. April 2012 20th- Jose calls Amy a “saddle” after she asks that he send back Pixies “Lambie” that has not been returned for 2 weeks. 21st- Jose sends multiple text messages blaming Amy for his relationship with the kids. May 2012 18th- Jose did not have car seats when he came to pick up the kids.  HE demanded that Amy give him hers.  Amy did not give him car seats because she has already had to replace car seats after letting Jose borrow them and he has returned them broken in the passed.  Jose told Amy via text that the “police were looking for her and she was going to go to jail”, all untrue statements.   20th- Jose tells Amy “we had a good laugh about your Victoria Secrets bag you sent the kids stuff over in”. After meeting Amy and dropping off the kids, Jose then follows Amy halfway to her house (the opposite direction that he needed to go to drive home) and turns around only after the kids are pointing at him from the backseat. Amy asked Jose why he was following her Jose said “I don’t follow that scent anymore”.  Amy Made a police report case number 65026112N June 2012 4th- Jose calls Amy his “leftovers”. 8th- Amy tried to FaceTime the kids using Clint’s email account.  Presley is upset and begins to cry says “I miss you, Dads taking the phone from me” Jose hangs up the phone.  Amy calls back, Jose says “They’re in a bad mood, and they are turning it into something else and you are helping them do that” Amy and her husband respond “By asking them what’s wrong? I’m not helping them do anything” Jose says “Shut the fuck up Clint before I beat your fucking ass you fucking faggot.” Amy says, “Did you just say you were going to beat my ass?”  Jose says, “I said I was going to beat Clint’s ass.  Clint that fucking faggot Clint, yes I did.” (recording) 11th- Calls Amy and her husband pathetic and retarded.  Amy tells him that her personal life does not need to be discussed. 19th- Amy still had no received child support payment.  She asks Jose about it.  Jose calls the AG office and tells Amy to “shop somewhere where the underwear are a little cheaper”, and that Amy is harassing him because she asked about CS payment. July 2012 6th- Amy sends the kids an email attached is a picture of Amy blowing the kids a kiss.  Jose responds for the kids saying “Nelly said nice duck face” When Amy briefly speaks to Presley on July 11th Presley says that Jose called Amy a “Duck face” and got Penelope to call her that too. 21st- Jose asks to switch the last weekends in July because of summer visitation.  Amy says that she cannot and explains to him the dates for summer visitation.  Jose calls Amy “bitter” and tells her he has a video of her Dad saying that “Amy is his problem now” that Clint can borrow.